“How to always make the right decision?” Many people ask this question all the time. We think it’s so difficult to choose the right path for us. We run to people for advice. We call pastors. We submit an enquiry for a prophetic word. And when we get some advice, we are still confused about what to do, where to go, who to ask, how to deal with a situation, or when to do that.
Are you that person? Are you stressed out about choosing between two? Have you been in that position when you made the choice, but then you had so many doubts about it. Are you fearful of choosing the wrong path?
Making the right decision depends on your confidence in God, in His character and His nature and your confidence about yourself, your gifts and abilities God has given you.
We, humans, complicate things by reasoning in our minds. We overthink things.
When Jesus was on this earth, He spoke a simple Gospel, not a heavy theology or very hard words to understand. His Gospel was simple – God is love, and because of His love towards humanity He sent His Son to liberate us from sin to grace.
But we make a conflict within ourselves about anything, about every little thing. Today we think we’re on the right path, tomorrow we regret it, thinking we are doing something wrong. Have you found your thoughts conflicting with each other?
Because of the complexity and confusion about life and ourselves we have within, our mind would always send negative signals. It will continue until WE decide to change that. It’s you and me who have to make that decision.
Is it Alright to Make the Wrong Choice?
God is not harsh on us. It’s us who criticize ourselves all the time. We are our worst critiques.
When you make a mistake, would God shout at you and be furious that you messed it up?
He will never do that. On the contrary, He will encourage you to continue to rise over and over again.
If you make the wrong decision, it’s alright. Do not allow bitterness, anger, fear into your heart. Take this stumble as a joyful lesson. Laugh at yourself. You stumbled, so what? At least you tried. Not many do. At least you did something many would dare to do.
Is it OK to Think We’re Always Right?
It’s in our human nature to criticize. Go to social media and read the comments. There are always ones who know everything.
It’s dangerous to think we are always right. People who think they are always right are wrong. Only God is good and He is right. Only God knows the future and what is in the hearts of men. Only God knows what is the right path for us and what is not.
Even in Christianity, there are so many different denominations. And every denomination thinks they are right. Really? Are you 100% sure that your denomination is right? I am afraid, that’s a deception.
When people think they are always right, this is pride. Nobody can decide what is right and what is wrong.
How Can We Understand if We are Right or Wrong?
• Through the Word of God
Thankfully, God has left us His Word that we can learn and understand His heart, the way He thinks, His desires towards us.
The Word of God is for every situation. It brings solutions and highlights what we still need to work on. It is so powerful that it can change our hardships and difficult situations.
I’ve experienced it so many times in my life. When I did not know what to do, during my meditation on the Word of God, the Scripture popped out. That Word gave me confidence and reassurance that in spite of all the obstacles, and negative reports, God was going to fulfil it, and He always did.
• By the Guidance of the Holy Spirit
God has not left us orphans or helpless here on this earth. He sent the Holy Spirit Who is our Helper and our Teacher. You have a friend, the Spirit of God, Who knows God’s mysteries, has got wisdom, understanding and knowledge about any situation and Who can guide you towards the truth.
And if you suffer adversity or stumble on your journey, the Spirit of God will encourage you and help you to overcome any stumbling block which hinders your growth of living a joyful and abundant life.
• By Having Peace in Your Heart
Feeling peace in your heart is your “right” or “wrong” barometer.
The Lord does not want you to be guided by fear, anxiety, stress. Your heart must always be guided by the peace of the Lord, Who called you to peace.
We need to train our minds to be in that peaceful state.
As I mentioned earlier, simplicity is the key. If you look at yourself how God sees you, you would always have peace. God is not mad. God is not angry. He is full of love and He will send help. He will show you where to go and highlight the right path for you.
What must you do? Make a decision. Be it right or be it wrong. Just make it. That’s faith and that’s what God loves.
You can change direction if you feel like you have missed your way… Decide to do that now! Go back a little more and begin from where you missed it out! If only you are ready to rise again, you can make a right decision in that tight belly of the shark. Jonah did that earlier!– Israelmore Ayivor
Can you imagine Abraham who did not know where he was going was stressed out because of the unknown place and future? Abraham took the word and here he went. He did not know the future but He had peace because He believed God and was confident that God was going to fulfil the promise.
On his way, he did take wrong paths and messed up, but God called Abraham, “My friend.” That’s so powerful.
Abraham exercised all three. He was led by the Word of God, and the Spirit of God and he had peace that God was going to bring him to the promised land.
How to take the Right Decision When Confused?
The confusion comes when you are not confident in who you are in Christ. When you are unsure, insecure about yourself, you will be confused.
Stop looking at right and wrong. Do not compare yourself with others. Do not build your life on people’s opinions about you. What causes confusion now, one day will make perfect sense.
My Final Thoughts
We need to learn to rejoice in every season of life and include everyone into our boundaries. We usually exclude people because they think differently. Even if someone is wrong, include them.
We will always find people who in our opinion are wrong. If it contradicts with our understanding we will automatically put them outside our boundaries.
Not many believed in Jesus. For even His brothers did not yet believe in Him as the Saviour. But He included all into His boundaries.
Yes, Christ had some tough talks with Pharisees, but He never rejected them. It’s people who rejected Christ. Jesus was filled with love towards others that came from a pure heart. And He teaches us to do the same.
What we appreciate today, it might change tomorrow. We change. Our understanding of things changes. When we mature, what we believed a few years ago, would not fit in our “today’s world.”
So, do not waste your time of choosing, or being correct, or what is the right path or what is wrong. Do not pay any attention to cultural myths, traditions, fables, rumors. Those are empty words and lead to meaningless debates, controversies, hate (1 Timothy 1:3-4). Do not waste your energy and time on what does not build you up or strengthens you.
But make a decision and let the Spirit of God lead you to the truth. Have peace and be confident in Who God is and who you are in Him. Enjoy your life to the fullest.
And if you think it’s hard, ask your Heavenly Father, and He will show you the way of life, granting you the joy of His presence and the path that will bring you face-to-face with Him. Amen. (Psalm 16:11)
Has this Message Been Helpful to You? Please Let Me Know in the Comments Below. Blessings, Haly